Mar 18, 2011

Impossible before Breakfast: The P3 Project

"When you aim for perfection, you discover it's a moving target."  ~George Fisher
To all my friends who know me well, prepare to take a refresher course. ~Kevin M. Williams


The pursuit of perfection is not a sprint, nor a marathon. It's a death march. No one person is perfect. (And to all of my religious friends reading this saying, "Well, there was this one guy... He doesn't count in this conversation ;P) It's commonly accepted that it is an impossible endeavor. No one person can be perfect for precisely the reason that Mr. Fisher states: It's a moving target. However, in all reality, that is the wrong way to look at it. Perfection is a moving target because we are constantly evolving. Changing. But that doesn't mean that we can't be perfect. It just means that we have to re-define our quarry. We're not looking for permanent perfection, just to be in that zone where perfect resides and able to evolve, adapt and change as it moves. But to do that, we need to find out what the perfect version of ourselves really is and then achieve that goal. I believe that anyone can do it. And to prove it...

I'm going to do it. I will become the perfect version of myself. In three years.
You can all stop laughing now. Got the tears out of your eyes yet? Sides done hurting? Went to pee? Good.
To pursue anything, to find anything, you need a map. And in the case of this, no GPS on earth can help you. Google Maps can't find it. It's not a check in on Foursquare. There's no like button for its location. But it exists. And everyone knows it. Everyone has a person that they consider perfect, even if it's only one small part of their life. Think about how many times you've said the following:
     He has the perfect job.
     Her husband is perfect.
     The kid is just an angel, the perfect kid.
     This is the perfect vacation.
See, I'm not crazy. Perfection exists, in the eyes of the people who see you. But being prefect means seeing it when you look in the mirror. And it's not just enough to hear it, it's achieving it. And like any other journey, it's all about how you get there. To this end, I will spend the next two days creating my map and discovering what the perfect version on Kevin M. Williams is. Not the people around me, but everything that makes me, well me. The people around me shouldn't have any bearing on this endeavor, besides any attempts to help or hinder me. But both will be ignored. I have to do this on my own, alone. No one but me can get me to perfect. I already have the map in my head. Anyone who knows me knows who I want to be; now I just have to get there.

I see a lot of hands up and a lot of concerned looks on faces. That's good; it means you're paying attention.

I have taken the time to narrow perfection (in my own eyes) down to the following ten things:
Appearance: The way you look and dress
Behavior: The way you act, how you think, how you carry yourself
Comfort: Financially, inter-personally, and spiritually, are you relaxed?
Desires: Every child has dreams, adults have to do lists, and others have bucket lists. What's on yours?
Experiences: What have you seen and done? What stories do you have to tell?
Fulfillment: Simply put; are you happy with your life?
Goals: Not just in the actual goals, but plans to achieve them
Health: Are you in the shape you want to be in? And are you okay with anything you can't change
Intelligence: Not what you know, but what you want to know
Job: What do you do for a living and can you live with it?

I plan to find those things that are in those categories and achieve them; check them off the list and when it's complete, then I will be perfect. But here's the rub: once I get there, and you achieve this goal, you reset the clock. New things will take the place of old as you do this, but as times goes on, the things that you want will only get so much bigger that they can't be accomplished alone. With that, you have to bring others in and then, by power of being near you, they too will begin their chase of perfection.

I have until January 16th, 2015 to achieve these goals. No pressure, right?

I'm not arrogant enough to believe that this will be done completely alone. Each of you will try to help, in your own way. But the achievements have to be my own. I'm open to suggestions, except the inevitable suggestion to quit. That I cannot do. Too many signs have pointed to the fact that this is what I have to do. The puzzle pieces are coming together, and the picture is clear. Now for the hardest part...

I am going to create a blog and document my transformation. Videos, photos, the works. I can't say that I'll write something every day, but it will be damned close to it. At least five days a week. I am calling this impetuous project, the Pursuit of Personal Perfection project. When the blog is live, I'll send everyone the link. I need each and every one of you who reads this to go there and read it.

I know that some of you don't like to read, but this is important so pay attention: The only assistance that I will accept that's related to this project is emotional support. I am attempting something that will undoubtedly be the single hardest thing that I've ever done and there is a possibility that it will trash my self-esteem, confidence, and patience. My friendships and relationships will be tested in ways that are not even comprehensible to me and I'm the person doing it. But I have to try. I can't live the rest of my life not knowing if the perfect version of myself is just an unattainable goal or something real, something tangible, something that I can accomplish.

I don't want to ever have someone tell me that I could never be perfect and believe them... it's a crushing thing to hear.

1400 days, 100 objectives spanning 10 categories, 1 man... let the games begin. After all...

Is it only when we attempt the impossible that we come to understand what is actually possible.

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