"You spend all this time complaining about other people and how it's their fault you're angry or that better people than they are able to forgive the terrible things you do to them, but how about you just stop doing terrible things to good people. That's why they hold grudges against you, you even admit yourself you aren't that good of a person."
As I read that, I had to stop and think. Maybe she was right? Maybe I was spending too much time doing nefarious things to good people. Maybe I really was the villain that I kept telling everyone I was. And then it dawned on me.
I didn't even know where I knew this woman from... how could she even begin to know who I was?
This entire experience brought something to light that I think needs to be discussed. The purpose of certain things that are said are not so much to illuminate the obvious but the inspire thought and discussion. Some people give advice just to assist others in knowing exactly what needs to be done to stay on the right path.
However there are others who give advice just to make a person feel guilty about the things that they say and do. They are only out to make you feel bad, and some times, it's not even a matter of something that you did, but rather something that was done to them that makes them feel that they can judge the actions of others because if one person did it to them, then everyone who does something similar has to be the same way. There are even those rare occasions that the preaching (read: tongue lashing) that you've received is the outcome of something that they wished that they could say to someone else in their past that causes them to instead, as a part of their healing process to "tell you what's you're doing wrong."
But nothing is better than having an unlikely friend come to your aid in your moment of crisis.
As I was being berated for a moment of irritation, another friend of mine decided to chime in, informing the "preacher" that not only was she wrong about her opinion of me, that she couldn't really know who I was to make such an assumption. He then spent a large chunk of time responding to her attacks with unerring accuracy and deftly disarming her verbal barbs.
Moral of the story I guess is simply this: Do you know who you're audience is when you voice your opinion?